Thx for all the kind comments and advices so far. Normally i really dont have a problem sexing tokays. Specially adult ones. Its just that i couldnt see anything with the magnifying glass but the macro photos showed some black dots, plus the big head made me wonder...
Like Ingo i dont really consider her fat. She presses herself against the surface on the images, that might make her look heavier. And she might have good use for any extra weight because we noticed a growth in the mouth when we picked her up, and the vet said we should get it out.
Knowing how easily stressed tokays are we still hesitate a little what would be the best thing to do. If relocation, quarantine plus surgery would be too much.
Here some pictures: